Wednesdays are the busiest day of the week in my house. My mother works from home a majority of the week but on Fridays she works for part of the day, and on Wednesdays she works all day. And while I only have one class in the evening, I find myself struggling through readings and assignments that I’ve neglected. With all of that in mind, we struggled to find time today to observe Ash Wednesday together. We decided to that would take the hour that I have between her coming home and my class starting to impose ashes together, and light the candles that came in our Lent in a Box from Allensville-Trinity UMC.
I found myself in something of a questionable mood as we gathered at the kitchen table to read through the Ash Wednesday home liturgy together. I fumbled with mom’s phone to bring up music, and with a few breaths let out some words that I’m not proud of.
And that’s where I have to admit that I’m frustrated this year. I’m frustrated that I have an evening class on a day like today. I’m frustrated that my mom and I could hardly find the time to line up our schedules to observe today. And even more, I’m frustrated that I can’t be with my people in person. When I preached to the Allensville-Trinity time almost this time a year ago, I didn’t realize that this would be the last time I preached to my internship congregation. I confess that last year felt like the lentiest Lent that I ever Lented.
I didn’t imagine that that season would follow me through the year and cover my mind constantly. I struggle to decide what to give up for Lent, as it already feels like I’ve given up so much in the past year. I’m more painfully aware of my humanness, my brokenness, and indeed, my mortality, than I’ve ever been in my whole life.
And yet, the ashes have been a constant. Ashes are smeared on my forehead, and I’m reminded again that I am dust, and to dust I shall return.
There’s so much I could say about what Ash Wednesday looks like this year. And perhaps I’ll try, through blogging, to work through my feelings on Lent. But for now, I leave you with the sermon that I preached last year for the Allensville-Trinity charge in Roxboro, NC.
Beneath the Ashes, Ash Wednesday Sermon from February 26, 2020.
During my senior year at North Carolina Wesleyan College, my father’s house burned down to the ground. His brother had smoked a cigarette on the porch and hadn’t put it out as well as he thought he had. My grandma sent me pictures of the wreckage after she called me to tell me what had happened, and they brought tears to my eyes. I came home immediately.
By some miracle, my dad had gotten out in the middle of the night and spent only a few days in the hospital. The man who wheeled him to the front of the hospital from the burn unit commented on how lucky he was to be leaving after such a short stay. Later that day, my sister and I went with him and his girlfriend to see the house. The roof had caved in from pressure of the water used to put out the flames. The once cream-colored walls were covered in ash, the bed that I slept in when I stayed the night was covered in ceiling tiles and debris.
Dad’s girlfriend had never been to the house before, and she was horrified. “Goodness, Mike,” I remember her saying, “this looks bad.” I privately thought that she couldn’t understand the full extent of the destruction. She didn’t know what the house was supposed to look like. But I knew. I still remember the deep blue carpet, the lavender walls of my bedroom, and the front porch where my sister and I used to sit and talk in the cool night air. Dad’s girlfriend couldn’t fully understand, because the only mental image she had of that house was one of an ash-covered ruin, no longer fit for living.
Ash Wednesday is not typically anyone’s favorite day in the life of the church. As the former pastor of my home church said, “there are no cards for Ash Wednesday.” While for festivecelebrations like Easter and Christmas, we expect to see full pews and smiling faces, we don’t anticipate Ash Wednesday and the start of Lent with such eagerness.
On Ash Wednesday we acknowledge our humanness, our mortality, and our sin. We also start the season Lent, the season where we prepare our hearts and minds for Easter, and the joy of Jesus’ return from the grave. But we can’t celebrate resurrection without first going to the tomb. And the journey there is one of repentance. Today we’re forced to remember just how human we are, and how real our sins are. Today we know that we are dust, and to dust we shall return.
In our Psalm for today, King David cries out to God from the depths of his own sin and shame. “I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me,” he says. David, who is described in scripture as being a man after God’s own heart, has committed an atrocious, unspeakable act, you see.
This is the same David who was anointed by Samuel in the presence of his brothers. The same David who defeated Goliath with a stone for the glory of God. King David has abused his power by taking another man’s wife and causing her husband’s death. God has forced him to see his own sin through the words of the prophet, Nathan. And all that is left for him is the guilt and horror of what he has done. All he can do is sit in his own sin, and weep. David has reached rock bottom. His life has gone “up in smoke” and its feel like all that there is left to do is sit in sackcloth and ashes, an ancient sign for mourning and repentance.
Regret for our sins isn’t an unfamiliar feeling, is it? And yet, in our culture, we will go to great lengths to avoid having to look at the charred remains of our sins. It’s not by accident that Ash Wednesday isn’t anyone’s favorite day in the life of the church. If sitting with the reality of our own mortality as represented by the ashes on our forehead is hard for us, then sitting with our sin is doubly so.
We know what it is to feel the full weight of what we have done to ourselves or to others. We know the feeling so well that we’ll go to great lengths to avoid feeling it. We’re prone to running away; prone to avoiding the charred wreckage that is left behind in the wake of the trail we blaze with our sins.
We think of our sins often as hurting other people, but the ugly truth is that, while we often hurt other people, we hurt ourselves as well. And we hurt God. Our angry words don’t just hurt the people that we meant them for, they hurt us, and they hurt God. The sins we do in hiding that we think no one sees or notices, they too hurt our relationship with our creator. What we think is done in secret doesn’t stay a secret.
The heart-breaking truth is that we all covered in the ashes of our own sins, and we have no one to blame but ourselves. Like the ruins of my dad’s once beautiful home, we are left unrecognizable by the grime of our sin and shame. But we haven’t been left to rot in our imperfection. Because God sees what we, and other humans, can’t. God knows what we’re supposed to look like beneath the sin, and God calls us to repentance. As we cry out with broken hearts, and long to enter again into the joy of worship, and freedom from our sin, God longs to wash us clean and bring us back into wholeness.
Yes, we are dust, and to dust we shall return. But we worship a creator who can make beauty out of dust. Like I could look past the charred remains of my father’s house and see the treasured memories of the home I’d once lived in, God can see past the smolder wreckage of our lives and see the beauty of what was, and what might still be. Today we wear ashes and sit with the knowledge of our own mortality. But we can enter into a spirit of repentance and know that God will not leave us in the ash. Thanks be to God.
Loving God,
Today we acknowledge that we are dust, and to dust we shall return. Help us to walk through this season of Lent together, even while we are separated. Walk with us on this journey, and prepare our hearts for your coming, for your triumph at Easter. Help us to remember our mortality, and our brokenness, and yet, to give thanks that you don’t leave us in our ashes.
In your Son’s most holy name we pray. Amen.